October is coming to an end and I can't believe it. This time last year I had no idea that my world was going to change the way it did. It's been a complete year and some change since I've been in transition. Life transition. Losing my father, gaining a fur baby, getting in and out of a new relationship, then getting in another relationship, moving into a new apartment, starting and losing a job, getting closer to some friends, losing some friends, and much more. I'm saying all this to say, I've had a hell of a year! What I've gained most from this year is the importance of my environment.
I remember a while back at church my pastor, Toure Roberts, spoke about environment. I woke up this morning to read a chapter from Jen Scenario's "You are A Badass At Making Money" and the chapter was talking about environment. Then I said, "You know what, I'm going to blog about my environment change and how it's affected my life." Your environment includes several things; where you live, where you work, nature, your finances, spiritual, and most importantly your relationships. I remember growing up my parents used to always say, "the people you hang around is very important" but growing up I didn't see what they meant until now. The people you spend the most time with, pick up habits from, gain worldly knowledge from are the people that affect your life the most. Think about the person you are dating. The things they do, phrases they say, places they go, those things start to become your life. A few months go by and you're starting to think "OMG we are the same person" when actually y'all just adapted each other's lifestyle. It's not a bad thing, unless that person's lifestyle is not conducive to yours. Living in LA, it's easy to get sucked into someone else's lifestyle and think it's lavish. You can easily get trapped in the lifestyle and not the importance of the friendship/relationship. However, knowing what you want for your future can help you determine who you want to let into your life and that includes someone you want to date.
Choosing the right environment
I was dating someone, because not only did I admire everything about them, I loved their lifestyle. I didn't realize how unhealthy it was until someone showed me a lifestyle that was better for me. One day I sat down, reevaluated my relationship and realized that I wasn't creating the right environment for myself. I wanted my everyday environment to uplift me, bring me closer to God and inspire me to follow my dreams. I knew that the person I was dating wasn't providing me with the environment I desired, so I had to make a change.
When I chose a different relationship, when I chose to better my environment, my life indeed changed. I suddenly realized the importance of choosing the right environment. You might be going through a different situation, you might be in a good relationship but another aspect of your environment is negatively impacted. It could be your workplace or where you live. Take a break and take note on the things that irritate you. When you see yourself being negative, ask yourself what is causing that? When you list out the things that are causing you to be negative, then you can try and positively change your environment. I’m currently going through another environment change right now. Since I realized how different my life can be with just one little change, I’m looking at this environment change with confidence. Not with doubt this time, but with confidence. Confidence that I know this change will be for the better and good things will come January 1st, 2019, start now and go into the new year with a new environment!
With 2 more months left in 2018, this is the perfect time to start making those environment changes.
Start by writing a list of things that bring negativity to your life.
Prioritize what you want to change first! Whether it’s your job, a relationship, moving into a new place, whatever is the most important to you put it number 1 on your list.
Lastly, don’t be afraid of change. Pray about it and know that this change will be good.
Don’t wait until January 1st, 2019 to change something in your life, start now and you’ll see the environment change for the New Year!